Intimacy cannot be taken away from you. You choose with whom you want to create intimacy with by making proposals and navigating from space to space. In each space you can say yes or no. Or yes, and.
Moving from your Being, you are the one that creates and sources intimacy. When you say “I am falling in love”, you place yourself in a space where you do not have power, you are a victim of love as if love is something that happens by chance and from scarcity.
In this “endroit” of scarcity you most ensure that you do everything in your power to maintain the love that you just happened to stumble upon. You are outside of love, interacting with love as a commodity.
This is the vision sold by modern culture, by movies and songs. Love is scarce, it does not happen often. Maybe once in a life time.
If you shift from “falling in love” to creating intimacy, you become a creator. Love is not the object of your actions, love is the source of your actions and therefore abundant and not dependent on anyone else because you are connected to the source, which is you.
Intimacy moves you and takes shape as you make and negotiate proposals. You choose in every yes, no, yes and, where you are navigating to, what you need and want while in connection with another Being.
Intimacy stemming from you being a creator, evolves and shifts as you evolve and shift.
You choose. When it starts. When it ends.
