Lately I have been navigating through my own responsibility when it comes to relating with other human beings, in this specific case, a man.
Every single moment in relating is important, especially those initial moments in which the excitement of meeting someone new is present: “the beggining is a very delicate time.”
If you allow yourself to indulge in the excitement you may find that you are moving in a speed that does not allow you to be present.
The speed of Love is slower than the speed one may habitually move. The speed of Love is scary because once you slow down you see, once you see you cannot unsee.
Seeing opens your gaze to new possibilities and choices. You are now aware of something that before you were not. By becoming aware, you have the choice to take responsibility.
The speed of Love is intense, you will feel more in ranges that will probably surprise you. There are no dull moments in the speed of Love.
Feelings roll one after the other, showing exactly what you need to know at any given moment. Not even the faintest breeze remains unnoticed when you move at this speed.
When you slow down, your Heart begins to speak louder. As your Heart speaks louder, the opportunity to unfold the information of your Feelings (sadness, anger, fear and joy) presents itself. Most of these feelings are as subtle as a heartbeat, that is why it is so important to slow down.
Slowing down puts you at the center of Experiential Reality. Your feelings become books that you open and read through their pages. Each page revealing such richness in details and information, that you could never imagine that you had all those pearls inside of you, just waiting to be taken.
It is when you move at the speed of Love, connected with your Heart and unfolding your Feelings, that you have the possibility to shift your identity from being a Two Cow Woman/Man to being a Nine Cow Woman/Man and relate with someone as them being a Nine Cow Woman/Man (you can listen to the Nine Cow Woman story, bellow).
Being a Nine Cow Woman, you move from and with Dignity. You now longer set boundaries you become a Distinction. Your actions and words come from the questions: “How am I being a Nine Cow Woman right now? How am I treating this man as a Nine Cow Man?”
Low drama ceases to be a choice, not because it is wrong but because it is not aligned with the Love and Respect that a Nine Cow Woman is the space for.
Complaining, blaming, making wrong, fighting, all of that loses its grip because when you look at someone with the eyes of a Nine Cow Woman you see a Nine Cow Man and your Heart and your Being will not allow your other parts to disrespect the sacredness that both of you hold together in the space where your relating is unfolding.
It is in this moment that Love may happen.
With Love,
Sónia
